A Blythe Coach

42 Life Lessons from 42 Years

As part of my birthday celebration this year I decided to indulge in sharing, in no particular order, this collection of incomplete, unjustified, and unsolicited pieces of advice!

The bite-sized nuggets come from a wide variety of influences from family and mentors to thinkers and celebrities and my own observations and beliefs.

42 Life Lessons spread in my Bullet Journal

Lessons & Advice, Meaning of Life

I’ve been thinking about the meaning of life, a la The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, which I am reminded that I really would like to re-read.

Usually careful to cite sources, provide context and justification, as well as practical applications, in this case I’ve cast all that aside. Instead, I’ve just compiled, willy-nilly, some of what I consider to be the most important lessons I’ve learned so far. Some might be thought trite, some are redundant, and there are certainly important lessons I’ve failed to include. However all have provided meaning and motivation to me at some point.

Concepts I’ve listed here are also included in my work here in my articles, in my classes and coaching, online on YouTube and social media. Some will bear elaboration in future offerings and I’d love to know what piques your interest.

Podcast 100: 42 Life Lessons

How perfect that this also comes in time to be the topic of my 100th podcast:

You can also listen to Podcast 100, the audio of this article, here
  1. You are just the way you should be
  2. You are loved
  3. Fake it till you make it
  4. If you’ve got it, flaunt it
  5. Let your heart lead
  6. There is nothing wrong with you
  7. Isn’t life always so exciting?
  8. Being intimidated by a subject can be a good sign of your respect for it, don’t let that stop you
  9. Don’t let not being picked first stop you
  10. Feel fear and take action anyway
  11. Be grateful and see the abundance in your life
  12. Go ahead and dream and plan, it is good to seriously explore what might be you passions
  13. And also, be open to even better things happening than you imagined – the adventure is so much more incredible than I dreamed
  14. You will always be you at every age, and your identity and awareness will continue to grow
  15. Establish the habits that are important to you and be patient about them yielding results
  16. People tend to regret what they didn’t do
  17. Starting is half the battle
  18. Inspiration meets you when you begin
  19. Be ready to start over again and again
  20. Luck can be cultivated by paying attention and seizing opportunities
  21. There is only now
  22. Always say “I love you” and acknowledge people when you can
  23. None of us know how long we will live
  24. Read to expand your world, for pleasure, and to learn
  25. Write to learn, remember, think, reflect and express
  26. Get support: coaching, therapy, professionals, groups
  27. Practice your craft
  28. What you pay attention to grows
  29. Resist social conditioning when it interferes with your true self
  30. Stand for equality, against oppression of all kinds (this struggle will never end)
  31. Learn from the past, your personal experiences and global historical context wherever possible
  32. Have curiosity and a growth mindset
  33. We all have our gifts and our pains
  34. Learn to travel by bicycle, car, motorcycle
  35. Focus on the ride
  36. It is more important to be truly known (as kind) than famous
  37. Here to have a lived experience, recognize connection with others, with all
  38. Food and eating is one of the great pleasures of life
  39. Mindfulness makes life better and makes you a better artist and person
  40. Allow people to surprise and delight you
  41. Art flourishes with restraints
  42. Trust divine timing
Blythe celebrating early birthday on a houseboat in Amsterdam: thanks cousin Jordan!

Questions for Reflection

  • Which of these lessons resonate for you?
  • What important lessons have you learned so far in your life?
  • What words of wisdom have you learned from family, friends, mentors, study?
  • What do you want to learn more about?

Resources for further Exploration

You’re always more than welcome to reach out to me via email or on Instagram​ @ablythecoac​​h​ and I’m grateful we’re connected.

Blythe Stephens, MFA & Bliss Catalyst
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